Re-Parenting - Part 17 - Accepting OthersEvery child needs to know how to find healthy friends, and how to distinguish between safe people and unsafe people; and they need to know what process to undergo in order to figure that out. They also need to know what to do when they encounter parts things in people that make them feel uncomfortable or annoyed. Do they reject the person or accept them?
Re-Parenting - Part 16 - AcceptanceTo be healthy a child needs to be fully accepted - their body and personality. But there is a tricky part to acceptance. Do I accept all of my body, or are there some things I can change? What do I do when it comes to accepting other people or circumstances? Is it all right to accept some things and reject others?
Re-Parenting - Part 15 - GiftsGiving and receiving gifts in a healthy way is very important for a child's development. But Complex Trauma messes up most of this. Re-parenting ourselves requires learning to give and receive gifts in a healthy way; and it has many, many benefits.
Re-Parenting - Part 14 - ProtectorsThe brain develops ways to protect the wounded inner child. These are known as adaptations or protectors. The problem for people from Complex Trauma is that once they become adults, these adaptations cause them a lot of problems in relationships and life. Learn about these protectors and how to reparent them during todays Tim Talk.
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 1 - PerfectionismWhere does perfectionism come from? What are the characteristics of perfectionism? How does one grow and change in this area?
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 2 - Escape to FantasyWhen painful situations can't be resolved for a child, some learn to cope by escaping to fantasy. It helps them survive, but can have negative consequences in adult life.
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 3 - Fear of AbandonmentAbandonment is a big part of understanding Complex Trauma and it results in the fear of being abandoned again in future relationships. This can result in behaviours that prevent healthy relationships. We look at 36 attributes of the Fear of Abandonment Characteristic and ways to overcome this fear.
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 4 - ManipulationWhy do people manipulate? Here we will look at thirty-one tactics people use and the negative consequences of manipulating others. How should we deal with manipulators and how to stop oneself from manipulating.
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 5 - Authority IssuesPeople from Complex Trauma often struggle with authority issues. Some get diagnosed with O.D.D. (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) or Conduct Disorder. Why is this such a big issue? What tools are there for changing?
60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 6 - Judge Self HarshlyPeople from Complex Trauma usually have an inner critic that finds something wrong with everything they do. Why is that? Does it help? What can we do to change it?