“Having an addiction is like sitting under a large pile of rocks. The rocks, are shame.  My shame. The first days when I learned about Complex Trauma, it was like someone taking one rock away at a time so a little bit of light could seep in, and I could begin to find myself.”

June marks a significant milestone for Tim Fletcher, as his dreams of publishing books on Complex Trauma in the context of addictions and mental health are finally being realized. Cindy McKay, together with my team have been working tirelessly to prepare this first book for publishing.

The original title was “The Missing Link”. After much consideration of the title, and running it through book databases, we were concerned that the title of the book was not original enough. Not on its own. The line of thinking was 100% correct, but I was strictly thinking from a marketing perspective. After quite a bit of digging into book titles that would be unique, and we came across the word “RELINK”. Its definition is simply “to reconnect”.

 Somehow, this singular word had the powerful double meaning of reconnecting – addiction to complex trauma, as well as reconnect – the opposite of addiction.


Based on some discussions I had with some clients from RE/ACT and primarily with Tim, we wanted to depict an “uncovering”. The idea that in this book, you can begin to find yourself. We didn’t want it to look like a smooth or easy process, but one that would take some work. As we developed the concept, I kept referring to one of the RE/ACT clients who mentioned: “Having an addiction is like sitting under a large pile of rocks. The rocks, are shame.  My shame. The first days when I learned about Complex Trauma, it was like someone taking one rock away at a time so a little bit of light could seep in, and I could begin to find myself.”

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FOREWORD

Cindy McKay

There is Real Hope 

(Excerpt)

In the media, politicians and policing organizations all rave about the war on drugs and addictions. Governments vow getting tougher on crime policies with more severe penalties attached, all in the name of public safety. This may be a great way to win over the general population’s perception of safety but over the last several years, has very little impact on the level of crime seen in cities everywhere. The fear continues. The insurmountable problem offers very little in the way of real solution. 

The goal should be to get to the root cause of the violent behavior in the criminals. Develop and understand why people feel compelled to commit crime and become addicted to substances. The politicians have to adopt the attitude that, just maybe, with the right supports in place, prevention of people crossing the line to criminal or risky behaviours can be the real change. 

Tim Fletcher did a four-week series on Complex Trauma at Riverwood Community Church, of which we attend. The message delivered to the congregation hit home with everyone in the audience as we learned that to be human, often, sadly, means experiencing trauma in some way shape or form in our lifetime. Whether it be the abused child who grows up in an unhealthy home or one time traumatic events of car accidents, verbal, sexual, emotional or spiritual abuse, how we perceive these events can have long lasting effects on who we are and how we show up in the world. 

As I sat in the audience, I realized that I have experienced several one-time traumas in my life. Although I feel I have coped well, I realized that these experiences shaped the decisions I have made throughout my life. Connecting the dots was emotional and it deepened my understanding of how much of our society is affected by Complex Trauma. 

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Pre sales begin June 1! We will be launching an E-Book to start, and hopefully a hard-cover book later this year. We will keep you updated on availability!

With Love,

Shannon Vanderlinde
Tim Fletcher Co/ Finding Freedom/ RE/ACT COO